Struggling with Anger?
Anger is a natural emotion that everyone experiences, but sometimes anger gets out of control and leads to negative consequences that can affect your personal relationships, your work, and your mental and physical well-being.
There are four basic ways that we can react to anger:
- Surpress our anger
- Express our anger destructively
- Express our anger constructively
- Calm and let go of our anger
When we surpress our anger, it can build until we end up taking it out on the wrong person or overreact to something small. Or we may hold it in and turn it towards ourselves and end up feeling frustrated or depressed. Supressing anger also creates resentment towards the people or things that are making us angry.
When we express our anger destructively, we act on our anger in ways that can damage personal relationships, get us in trouble, and leave us regretting our actions and feeling embarassed or ashamed.
If anger is having negative consequences in your life, there are a number of ways in which anger management counselling can help you learn to express your anger productively, and to calm and let go of your anger before it becomes a problem. Anger management training can also help you reduce how often you experience anger in general.
How Anger Management Can Help
Sometimes anger comes on so suddenly it feels like there's nothing you can do to prevent yourself from snapping or blowing up right away. Other times anger builds up over time, but if you have no way to release it or express it, it continues to build up until it become too much to bear and you end up lashing out, sometimes over something small or at the wrong person.
Regardless of how you experience anger, anger management can teach you how to deal with your anger more effectively.
- Anger management helps you to identify triggers and at-risk situations, and to recognize the initial warning signs of anger, allowing you to take steps to defuse your anger before you snap.
- Anger management provides strategies to slow down your anger and deflate it so you can choose how to respond constructively to anger, rather than saying or doing things you later regret.
- Anger management teaches assertiveness skills and ways to deal with interpersonal conflict so you can express your anger productively and avoid becoming resentful or feeling like others are taking advantage of you.
- Anger management helps you learn better ways to manage stress, as the more stress you're under, the more likely you are to become angry.
In addition to helping you learn to manage your anger, counselling for anger management can help you become less likely to become angry in the first place.
- We'll examine attitudes, beliefs and values that may be contributing to your anger, and consider changes that can make you less susceptible to anger.
- We'll look at ways to deal with negative emotions such as sadness, disappointment, fear, shame, resentment and contempt that often lead to anger.
- We'll explore ways you can experience more positive emotions, and create more meaning and purpose in your life, leaving less room for anger to arise.
I'm a Toronto therapist who can help you learn to better manage your anger. Unlike some anger management program that rely on a fixed set of lessons and are often delivered in a class or large group setting, we'll customize our work together to meet your needs and ensure you get the most out of our anger management sessions.